Journey of Energy Healing – Spiritual Testing

For other installments in the Journey of Energy Healing see, Looking even deeper, Identifying what we haven’t experienced,  It’s not about the ModalityLooking Deeper at EnergyThe Healing CrisisLesser Etheric Life FormsIdentifying Etheric Objects, and preparing to clear themThe Dreaded Implant and A Healer’s Journey

Every day at any time we are subject to being tested on some level.  When we’re doing our spiritual work is an especially good time for Guidance to measure how we’re doing lesson wise.  How we respond when presented with certain situations determines where our Guidance will focus our lesson plan.  In healing work is particularly a good time to measure our progress.  At times we’ll sense an energy which isn’t in alignment with the person we’re working with and is also not appropriate to clear.  The test could be to find out if we’ll sense it, use our intuition to determine the correct action, ask the correct questions or if we’ll just remove it without further inquiry.

Sensing an energy doesn’t mean it’s alright to clear it.  If it’s there and we don’t sense it this doesn’t mean it’s in the highest good for it to stay there but this is a tricky one.  If we don’t sense it others may and alert us to what they feel or it may just be to test our senses.

Welcome to the pop quiz version of spiritual testing.  As I write this Guidance is laughing motioning for me to move forward.

Just for the record, we can’t actually remove or change anything which should not be cleared.  All of our perceptions come through our spiritual connections such as the Pineal gland to mention one.  These are accessible to be adjusted or filtered by Guidance for us to sense or not sense what we are called to notice or not intended to notice.  As we grow spiritually the filtering becomes less until there is no longer a purpose for this to occur.  If we attempted to clear something which should not be cleared most likely we’d be given the perception of its having been cleared so we’ll feel complete about it even though it remains where it was.  The term “no harm, no foul” comes to mind from Guidance.  Our experience on Earth is one of learning to be the Divine consciousness we are but don’t remember.  In the process of learning / remembering we’re not allowed to interfere in the growth of others even if we believe what we’re doing is in the highest good.  We’re not wise enough to know that so any attempt which would interfere with some one’s growth will not be permitted.  This brings us back to being tested and knowing what is appropriate.  As we complete our lessons we’re offered new opportunities to learn greater details or more involved subjects.  Conversely, not learning a lesson afforded us will result in our remaining at our current point until such time as we do learn.  Spirituality is completely a reward system, learn it then move forward or not staying where we are until it becomes well understood.

Sensing an energy which is not conducive to good health yet should not be removed is common.  A primary reason an energy would not be in the highest good to remove is often one of that energy has not yet fulfilled its purpose.  Yes, even those energies which are not the sort we want to keep have a greater purpose.  It usually takes a lot to get our attention and often we ignore subtle energies for years or even many incarnations during which time Guidance ups the level of discomfort attempting to get our attention so we’ll learn what is to be learned.  Many times in that learning those energies are cleared once and for all just by understanding the lesson.  As mentioned in other entries about healing we have a tendency to focus on what comes to our attention without looking behind that to see if there’s more, of which there usually is.  Not addressing those other energies is to overlook the root cause of a symptom, many times there are multiple layers.

Another just for the record, our Guidance is a part of us which didn’t enter into this 3D environment.  That part of us has the task of assisting us to learn in the most efficient way possible.  As they are us, they know all too well what it takes to get our attention.  They are diligent and persistent in accomplishing this goal in spite of how much we may drag our feet when it comes to meeting a challenge.

Now the flip side of sensing is unawareness of an energy.  At times we are prevented from seeing what is there simply due to its being inappropriate to clear it.  On other occasions we are tested to see if we can sense it anyway.  In my experience there are many levels of cloaking having been constructed in different ways to prevent sensing what is behind / within it.  At times several are employed to compound the difficulty.  The challenge becomes one of, can we sense the cloaking and are we able to see through them.

An advanced subject worth mentioning is the construction of cloaks to hinder dark energies.  I find this fun and informative to test the limitations of a dark consciousness.  This of course is not accomplished by using the Linear Consciousness which is always thinking it can (Ego) but rather by using the Spiritual Consciousness which could if we’ve come to a full spiritual knowing of our “God Within.”  Having integrated the knowing of how to work with cloaks and by practicing our energy work diligently we can become skilled.  Using a pendulum is a good way to by-pass our filters and know if we’re at a point of learning to accomplish this or anything else spiritual or otherwise.  As when working with Guidance asking a properly worded question makes all the difference.  We’ll get an answer to the question we did ask but was that the one we intended to ask.

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Our Spiritual Path, a plan not a contract

(also see Navigating the Flow Chart of Life)

A long misunderstood concept among some is that of our Spiritual Path.  In a linear view to some this has become synonymous with a preset course of action we must take in order to fulfill our objective in life otherwise we’ve failed.  In a spiritual view there is no failure, everything is experience no matter how it turns out.  Failure is a human concept not one the Creative Consciousness observes.

A phrase I was given says a lot about the “I must do this” perception.  “The past is written in stone while the future is written in pencil.”  Thinking our path is something we must do negates our Free Will to change our mind based on new information.  Our Spiritual Path is a general plan of what we have proposed to do based on the existing potentials at the time of our reincarnation.  We are not under any “contract” (another linear misunderstanding negating Free Will) to do anything at all.  We have Free Will to change our minds as often as we decide to.  Rather than a ridged plan think of the Spiritual Path as a flow chart. There are choices to make regularly as to which direction we’ll go and none of them are wrong only different.  Learning will ensue no matter which way we go.  To that end being flexible is a spiritual plus.  It allows us the ability to be where we’re best served to be at any moment.  This takes the Free Will of others into account too.  Someone we would be best served to meet may decide at the last minute to be where we were thinking about going which opens a potential of meeting them.

To say we “must” do something is like saying our path tells us we must take a road trip and drive down a certain road.  That may have looked good and had purpose when the plan was made before we incarnated except years later the funding for the bridge wasn’t approved so it was never built.  Our path says “we must go down that road” so over the cliff we go.  It’s all about potentials, had the bridge been built as was a potential the plan would be valid but without a bridge it calls for a change in our path adjusting for the current prevailing conditions.

Our path is about a plan of intentions, not a fixed one but one which is dynamic with the ability to change as conditions shift.  The only constant in the universe is change.  Flexibility is a must if we intend to change with it.

Journey of Energy Healing – Looking even deeper, there’s always more to see

For other installments in the Journey of Energy Healing see, Identifying what we haven’t experienced,  It’s not about the ModalityLooking Deeper at EnergyThe Healing CrisisLesser Etheric Life FormsIdentifying Etheric Objects, and preparing to clear themThe Dreaded Implant and A Healer’s Journey

Allopathic medicine is well known for treating a symptom rather than the cause of a dis-ease.  This has also been paralleled in the mind-set of spiritual healing.  When someone comes to us for help with a discomfort it’s so very common to focus the attention at that place to work with the energy there.

We are spiritual beings existing in a pocket of less expansive space, aka 3D.  Everything about us and everything around us was/is created form multidimensional energy including our bodies.  Everything which becomes manifest was/is multidimensional energy brought into 3D by thought.

Now we get to a very important part to remember.  We create our reality from our thoughts including those things we’d rather not have, particularly dis-ease.  We’re well practiced at manifesting what we don’t want without even being aware of it.  Each and every dis-comfort or dis-ease is not acting as an independent agent.  Those dis-eases were brought into manifest either directly or indirectly by our own thoughts.  Even the dreaded Cancer was drawn to us.  Our thinking created a dis-harmony which then opened a door allowing a dis-ease to visit us so we could see that disharmony.  Our mis-thinking many times (usually) began in a past incarnation being continued in each subsequent incarnation waiting for the moment we’ll see the errors made.  In this way all dis-comfort is a symptom not an actual event itself.  (We’re physical beings thus other physical conditions get our attention faster than anything else)  Dis-ease is much like a flag being raised to draw attention to something to be attended to.  We’re then calling to be looking deeper at every dis-comfort/dis-ease to locate the root cause.  Ignoring this all we can accomplish (without the Belief System of the one to be healed invoking a higher level of healing to work deeper than we are) is to put a temporary Band-Aid on the dis-comfort rather than conclude it.  Those which remain unfinished will return either in the same place or somewhere else until the underlying cause is resolved no matter how many incarnations it takes to see the true cause.  Learning and having experience is the reason we’re here on Earth.  Time is of no consequence to a timeless spiritual being.  That said why wait to learn?  There’s always more lessons to be seen.

The answer to the root cause is always be found in the Akash which contains the summation of our experience, it’s all in there.  It’s also not uncommon for spiritual lessons to play a part in our dis-comforts too especially with long term dis-comforts.  Those bother us waiting to be looked into deeper being seen for more than a localized occurrence but a greater lesson to be learned.   Lesson don’t come with labels to read nor do they announced themselves.  This calls for astute observation to see the bigger picture.

To be the most help to others and ourselves we are called to look past a noticeable dis-comfort to find what’s connected to it and what’s connected to that.  Nothing is separate or working alone, everything is connected to something else, everything else.  Follow the trail until it ends then work with that energy.  Knowing what is sensed about an energy never shows us a complete picture ask Guidance to assist you in bring a resolution to a dis-harmony.  Guidance sees everything about it from a perspective we are not in at this moment.  Trusting our Guidance is more important than I could begin to relate and so much growth will depend on that.

Guidance and the Bread Crumbs

This is a story about a game of Life, the original game of life not the one in a box although some say they’re both in a box at least until the choice is made to step outside the box.

This story begins with our adventurers already committed to a segment of the game as they progress through the unseen maze of life.  Each player must accept being in a state of forgetfulness otherwise the game would be too easy to complete.  The complexity of the playing field is a maze of such proportion even this is not seen especially with the players having limited vision and perception.  Having created a playing field with hidden aspects veiled from plain sight makes this a most complicated and challenging game of skill requiring the players to reenter the game a great many times to acquire the considerable understanding which is needed.

The game pieces themselves are well disguised as ordinary objects found in the maze.  To discern them takes close inspection and many times introspection to find any hidden meaning which may be concealed there.  Even then the significance may not be known at first until more puzzle pieces are gathered creating a larger image which then brings an epiphany on some scale.

While our adventurers are busy doing seemingly mundane tasks playing this game has another group which is also participating in the game.  To most players this group is unseen and unsuspected until they’ve progressed through many levels of the game.  Seen or unseen this group is always there attempting to help the players to attain their next goal.  Usually this group is called Guidance.  The rules of our game prohibits Guidance from making any direct contact with the players until the player give permission for Guidance to assist them.  To do this a player must first sense the presence of Guidance using intuition before asking to receive assistance or any direct communication can be established.  This is a catch in the game, a player must know Guidance is there without any outside proof.  Even without a player’s awareness Guidance is still doing as much as possible to arrange game pieces where they can be found, even moving them to a better place when they’ve gone unnoticed.  Without the awareness of Guidance most players do their best in managing the game while they work seemingly alone.

Guidance has a unique advantage in our game as they can see the entire maze knowing where each path will lead our player.  They also have an inventory list of sorts knowing what our players have found or learned and what is still to be located.  With this and the ability to see the entire maze Guidance organizes the journey of our players to the degree each player will allow.

As our players learn to hear the suggestions of Guidance the clues and game pieces become noticed on a greater level due to increased spiritual growth.  As the players put these pieces together they gain a better understanding of what each piece means and a greater vision of the journey becomes known.  All the while as our player work with Guidance to learn, they themselves begin to see the maze for what it is.  Even the game itself becomes more understandable.

Knowing how guidance works is very important to understanding the information offered.  Guidance cannot just come out and give us the answers to most of the questions we would ask.  Some, yes, but for the most part we must figure it out for ourselves, this is the learning process.  For this reason a trail of bread crumbs leads us to the clues we need to better understand the challenge we’re working on.  That said at times we may be misdirected so we’ll take a path we wouldn’t have taken just so we’ll find something important.  Remember, there’s a lot Guidance can’t tell us.  Misdirecting us as to why it’s important to do something may get us to where we need to be for a reason they couldn’t tell us before we get there.  It’s all part of the rules for our game.

Guidance is always leaving a trail of bread crumbs for us to follow.  If we’re aware and looking for these clues it creates a new dynamic in our game of life.  All of this points out something to know, we’re more than a bunch of singular entities on a speck of dust in the enormous universe.  We’re here taking part in a greater plan. We are watched over and assisted at every moment if we’ll only see and accept the help which is offered in unconditional love.  Above all, know that Guidance has an incredible sense of humor.  While we learn who we really are they like to have fun joking with us whenever it’s appropriate.

The Akash and the Ghost of our Past

Our complete journey of every incarnation here on Earth is recorded in full detail.  This record of our journey known as the Akashic record is both what we’ve accomplished and the potentials of what we plan to accomplish in the future.  As such it contains the many treasures of our learning although it’s also contains the resting place or burial ground for, to put it mildly, what is seen as troublesome experiences.  Everything we’ve done is in there.  All the great times we’ve had are there just waiting for us to discover them but then so are all the times we’ve been persecuted or we’ve been on the losing end of a battle, everything is there.

With each of us these stories are different yet we all have them.  The ones which surface the most are the ones we’d rather not remember.  There’s a lesson in the way it works.  In various ways we’re presented with the emotions from those lessor experiences as reminders of our past.  In any case we’re given the emotions usually without any details making it hard to understand why we feel the way we do.  In most cases the nature of these is misunderstood in our attempt to rationalize why we’re feeling them.  Sometimes these are seen as premonitions while at other times these are just projected onto or into a situation we are currently in.  Either way these are all memories of past experiences from other incarnations coming back to revisit us.  In many instances these contain fear or are centered on fear.  Fear is the most debilitating and/or motivating lower emotion we’re presented with in Duality.  Fear can and will stop us from moving forward in our lives simply based on past incarnation emotional memories.

So, how can we tell what these are about?  Spiritual growth is the number one asset in knowing anything, the more we grow the greater insight we gain.  Learning to dismiss the emotions looking at it from a higher perspective we could then take action as opposed to being caught in a “reaction” to the old emotions.

I’ve seen these reaction to the past experiences many times and very often when people have a desire to learn greater spiritual understanding.  In past centuries those with greater spiritual understanding were all too often seen as “evil” and we’ll just say they weren’t treated well.  These experiences have left emotional imprints in our Akash which pop-up to greet us in a most unpleasant way.  These “ghost of our past” will be triggered by a similar experience to replay the old experience as an emotional reminder of what happened then.  These reminders present an opportunity to see them for what they are and to clear them as they no longer serve our higher good.  It’s our choice to decide our path based on the current conditions or be hindered by the ghosts of our past as we reacting to what happened then.

The Spiritual Challenge of Fear

The focus of this writing is to assist in understanding the Challenge of Fear.  Perhaps this will make it easier for these shadows to be seen as illusions thus overcoming them with Light and truth.

Duality as we know it is a hologram containing many illusions, not everything is as it seems.  For most people the illusion of Fear is the big one being more potent than all the rest.  The way spiritual challenges are presented to us few even know when they’re facing a challenge which seems a bit harder to recognize them for what they are.  In this many don’t know why the level of fear is growing in their lives.  The majority of this is due to a person’s focus being directed onto the fear which creates more of what is focused on. Some when finding out about this challenge would rather run from it than face the illusions.  Everything is a choice of Free Will except saying “I’ll pass on that challenge.”  If a challenge isn’t faced and met when presented it will be rescheduled for the next incarnation although the conditions leading to the challenge may continue to the end of the incarnation or until the challenge is completed.  Living under the fear is no way to be, it deeply impacts our lives and the Akash is imprinting with a greater predisposition for fear which will be on the surface when we return in each incarnation.

Why is fear so potent?  Some of this is from cultural backgrounds, some of it is learned from others living in fear while some of this is also contained in our Akash from previous incarnations.  No matter what the source all of it is a misunderstanding of truth which stems from our thinking we’re small powerless creatures which is also part of “giving away our power.”  When we give our power away to fear we lose our Light completely.  Fear is attracted to those with less Light.  When we’re in fear we have no Light to repel fear so we attract even more fear to us.  It’s a hard fact but a Lightworker or anyone else in fear has no Light to work with and may even embody darker energy as well.  If we knew how powerful we are as a part the Creative Consciousness we’d see how humorous it is for us to fear anything.  We are connected to “all that is” which means everything is also a part of us, even the feared darkness is part of us.  Do we fear our little finger?  Our finger is connected to us and it could poke us in the eye when we’re not looking except we’re in charge of where it goes just as we’re actually in control of what we fear if we would only see the truth of it.

This challenge or any other challenge doesn’t have to be faced alone, separation is another Duality illusion.  We’re surrounded at all times by our Guidance, it doesn’t matter if we can hear our Guidance they know what we’re thinking.  Due to our Free Will we must ask them if we’d like their help.  Our Guidance will then start transferring information to us as fast as we can absorb it which will help us understand a greater truth so we can better overcome this challenge or any other.

 

Here are some thoughts which may help give perspective to the illusions.

There’s a reason we’re here

We’re not here on Earth by accident, we’re here by design working in a Divine test of energy to see if we can learn who we are without any help from outside sources before we could destroy ourselves.  Since this is a Divine Test the Creative Consciousness will not allow outside interference of any kind, no giant meteors or invading space aliens.  Visitors are tolerated only if they take a look then leave.  We have Free Will, this test would only stop if “we” end it ourselves, nothing from anywhere in the universe is allowed to interrupt this Divine Test of energy.  The Divine Test is why we have two fused chromosomes out of twenty four resulting in twenty three chromosomes unlike other similar life forms here.  The changes in our DNA wasn’t a natural function of biological evolution.  We’re the ones with Divinity in our DNA and science will never find the “Missing Link,” there isn’t one.

Besides our divine service of being on Earth we’re each here to learn self-empowerment which includes seeing the many illusions of Duality.  We come onto the Earth thinking we’re disconnected and our 3D intellect believes this to be true since there aren’t any signs with flashing lights saying “this way to your Divine connection.”  We must each find that connection reestablishing it as spiritual knowing not just “I understand it to be true.”  This connection to our own higher aspects assists us greatly to put an end to many illusions especially fear.  All that we learn here enriches the understanding of the Creative Consciousness even though it’s believed God knows everything.  Since we have Free Will the one thing which isn’t known for sure is what we’ll do tomorrow.

 

Fear is attracted to those who are afraid

What we fear ranges from death to anything that goes bump in the night, all of which are illusions put here as a learning experience.  Death is something we’ve all done many thousands of time even if we don’t believe in reincarnation.  We’re Divine specialists of incarnated existence taking part in this test of energy on Earth.  We keep coming back for another incarnation to advance the test to the next stage and work with those we love again.

What goes bump in the night is also here to test our understanding and ability to see past the illusions of Duality.  When we know we’re part of the Creator itself what could harm us?  Everything is part of the greater whole or “all that is” so no matter what it is it’s also a part of us too.  Even the feared darkness is part of us.  As Divine Creators we made the darkness out of our own misunderstanding.  We gave it the limited consciousness it has yet most of us run from our own creation.  The darkness has only one weapon against us, fear.  The only thing it can do with fear is scare us so we’ll give away our power as mentioned before.  When we see the truth about this game of fear we understand we’re holding ALL the cards so the game is over, we win.

 

Separation is another illusion

We are never alone, we are loved beyond all measure and as such we’re watched over at all times.  I won’t say we’re “protected” since there really isn’t any need for protection except as a 3D misperception.  Only in the illusions of Duality do we believe we’re alone small and powerless being in need of protection from everything around us.  This thinking presents us with a greater lesson potential by attracting more fear to us.  Once we’ve seen through the illusion of fear the shadows then run from us as our Light expands no longer held back by fear.

 

Fear is a tool of Dark consciousness (and other lesser evolved ways of thinking)

Fear is used daily to control us by governments, social groups, employers, the News media, advertisers and the Dark consciousness, each uses fear to get us to do what they want.  Is it any wonder why fear is so prevalent?  Dark consciousness is by far the most skilled, they’ve had centuries of practice in getting us to respond the way they want.

 

Science is seeing things differently

Some Physicist are thinking our 3D universe is really a hologram.  Astronomers have seen the structure and workings of our galaxy is far too benevolent to be a result of any random chance, they’re calling it “Intelligent Design.”  This is exactly what it is, our universe was skillfully designed for us as a classroom to learn in.  As we expand our consciousness we gain more insight and control over what happens here than most would even believe possible.

 

Overcoming our Fears

The antidote for fear is knowing fear is nothing more than shadows in the darkness.  Fear has no substance or power unless we give it OUR power by fearing it.  We’re NOT small and powerless, rather we are directly connected to the Divine Creator.  It’s very important to know we’re an integral part of the Creator to overcome fear.  Although it isn’t mandatory to have the knowing we’re part of the Creator to overcome fear it is extremely helpful.  Either way we’ll be called upon to hold this knowing as our truth sooner or later if we desire greater growth.

We have more command over everything here on earth than we could ever imagine even while we’re in a 3D body.  We each shape our reality in ways we don’t realize sharing every attribute of the Creator.  We begin accessing those attributes on greater levels as we see past more 3D illusions finding to a greater Knowing which expands our consciousness about the truth of our very existence.

 

Fear inhibits a Greater Awareness

Emotions such as fear, anger and hatred are restrictive energies trapping and isolating those caught in them limiting their perception to only seeing other lower energies.  The greater the level of fear the greater the entrapment becomes.  Those stuck in these lower states of consciousness are unable to see beyond their own situation which also excludes their own Light.  This only compounds the difficulty in finding a solution to fear, anger and hatred while eliminating any feeling of being connected to their own higher consciousness.

 

How to know if we already have a greater connection established? 

This isn’t meant to be anything more than a way to tell if we have a spiritual knowing of our connection to the Creator active.  Once we have this connection we know it rather than think it.  This greater connection changes us to our very spiritual core.  Even though we’re always connected the expanded connection is one of a greater knowing making a big difference to overcoming fear and continued growth.  If we are connected in this greater way we can feel some energy running in us when we ask guidance to give us a hug.  Guidance tells me even those not believing they can feel energy will feel something if only a chill running through them.  With this one experience of being spiritually hugged the connection cannot be denied.  Guidance will hug us as many times as we’d like in order for us to know the connection is there.  If there isn’t any feeling or we’re not sure then perhaps there isn’t the level of connection which was hoped for.  Asking Guidance for assistance to improve a connection is always good, asking opens the door so Guidance is allowed to help us.  Asking Guidance to do something “for us” is a wasted effort.  We’re here to learn how to do things for ourselves which is self-empowerment.  We wouldn’t learn much if everything is done for us.

 

Much like young children seeing scary costumes at Halloween they don’t know the truth about those costumes so there’s fear about what they see.  As they grow wiser the illusions of the costumes are seen.  With this challenge to see the truth about fear we have the opportunity to grow becoming wiser ourselves seeing past the illusions of what seemed to be real.  How many would embrace their fears which hide in the shadows?  It’s only natural to avoid them, yet to see them in a new Light exposes those illusions which have made themselves seem bigger than they truly are and so real.

There is no substitute for Self -Love

Also see An addendum to Self-Love for more information.

For some self-love seems a given yet for many others self-love just seems to be an unknown.  There is no substitute for self-love.  This one attribute is a corner-stone of spiritual growth and will inhibit us from finding the relationship we want.  If we can’t love ourselves how will we love another?  It’s easier to look outside of us for love which is why most of humanity searches for love in someone else to fill the feeling of incompleteness.  This has become accepted as where to look for love yet, why is it so elusive?  Like everything else love is to be found within us but for many it seems blocked by many forms of self-judgment.

Make no mistake the path to spiritual growth, knowing, self-empowerment and Mastery all pass through our doorway of Self-Love early in the journey.  There is a great deal to learn in spirituality yet we are very limited as to how far we can go without learning self-love.

In looking for a special relationship with another person to hold as our lover we are limited without knowing self-love.  How do we give love to another if we’re unable to love ourselves first?  We each have our own self-love doorway.  All too often this doorway seems unused if not locked.  This doorway must be opened allowing love and compassion to flow through us from Divine sources.  The doorway of self-love also is our portal to receive love as well as give love.

Opening our self-love portal requires effort to clear the past from blocking our access to it. There isn’t a magic wand to instantly remove the many incarnations of misunderstanding nor is there a new-age clearing process or technique to do it while we sit back and listen.  In Light of this we’re called to use a well-known process of standing in front of a mirror.  We look into our own eyes saying “I love you” and meaning it to as great a level as possible.  Many find resistance to doing this which is understandable but then this is why the process is so valuable, that resistance is what we want to clear.  As we continue doing this the resistance will subside as the obstruction is cleared.  Continue this no matter how long it takes, a week, a month, a year, it will pay off.  Eventually we find it easy to say “I love you” and meaning it.  When this occurs our doorway to self-love is open allowing us to honor our own Divinity by loving ourselves.

This is the first and a very important step to give and receive love from others.  We’ll still need to work with the Ego, judgment and trust but those are easier to overcome when we love ourselves.