Does it take a reason to be in love? I’ve never thought so but it certainly seems that we find reasons not to be in love.
Love seems to come from a place without a need to qualify its validity. We either have it or we don’t. It also seems that love may be misunderstood at times and thought of as something less than it is. Love seemingly has become a word without an emotional state of being involved which turns love into a blanket statement for being in lust with someone. Lust is fun especially if love is present too, let’s not confuse them as these are not interchangeable.
In a new loving relationship we start out being totally in love with a full “I’m happy with you” list then we begin subtracting from those feeling as we find reasons to be unhappy in a relationship. As time goes on the “I’m unhappy here” list can get longer as the “I’m happy with you” list continues to shorten. When enough reasons have piled up we fall out of love.
This seems to be the New Improved Instant Gratification version of Love. Is this how the majority of us view love and measure it? In this age of instant love, instant marriage and instant divorce love looks like it’s become a victim downsizing so it’ll fit into a smaller package but unlike a Twinkie there isn’t any preservative to prevent it from spoiling other than understanding. Understanding is self-administered, self-regulating and all too hard to find it seems. Understanding must also be present in adequate amounts in both lovers to preserve the love. The greatest results in a loving relationship come when both lovers have the same level of feelings and understanding. For those having tried a one-sided love or out of balance love you know what this is. It’s like playing tennis in the middle of a field by yourself or with someone not interested in playing, it’s a pointless and unrewarding effort.
We’ve all heard of Unconditional Love. In a perfect world of Divine Beings (who know and act like they’re Divine Beings) we’d live in peace and harmony. The reality is we’re not there yet so we’re not using the full potential of love yet either.
We sometimes talk about finding a lover from a past incarnation often called a Soul Mate which happens more often than some would believe, it’s just not recognized. Even if we find this lover from the past it doesn’t mean they’ll see us too. Sometimes they do and then the sparks could fly. It’s hard to tell if this will build a great fire or ignite the open container of gasoline. This brings up the question about how much unresolved karmic issues are remaining from the last time you were together? Can those items be worked out this time? These are all challenges but none are as challenging as the Twin Flame relationship. The Twin Flame relationship is far more than has been written about on the internet. There’s a great deal of misunderstanding which surrounds this love story as well as the unseen dynamics involved.
Can Love be found? It sure can although it could and most likely will require continual looking and learning to find the right one to be in love with. Finding a high level love is possible. If I were going to win a lottery this is the one to win. Keep the money I’ll take the riches of being in love with the one who returns love to me in full measure.